Facebook is filled with links to articles that talk about love and relationships. Oftentimes, these articles are in the form of checklists. “If it’s real love then your relationship has these 10 things”. “If he really loves you then he will do these 15 things”. “Your relationship will fail if you say these 9 things”. However entertaining these articles may be, I find myself saddened every time I read one of them. How could something as complex, faceted and magnificent as love be defined so universally by a simple checklist? The love that I wish to believe in is not, and will never be definable by Bustle or The Odyssey articles, but is, rather, a message only I can so thoroughly express.
My message is this:
My love is permanent. This does not mean that I will stay longer than I should, or take more than I should. It just means that my love will not falter in time’s eagerness to destroy. It will not be persuaded by experiences and actions that do not reflect your soul’s truest of intentions. If I loved you once, I always will.
I will help you, hold your hand, and let you lean on me. But I will not carry you or fix you. My love is not one to deny you of your potential to create, withstand destruction, and then recreate. That ability is not mine, it is yours. And I hope you will allow me the dignity of my own ability.
Much like me, my love is controlled chaos. I promise that in what seems like an illogical mess, there is sense. Sense guided by strong intuition and a soul that has lived for one thousand years. However scared, terrified, fickle and anxious I may be made by earths limitations, my love is deep and fair and forever. The word “forever” is only in existence to describe love. Not hate. Not jealousy. Nothing of the physical world. But love and love alone.
This is my message of love to you.